Updated: Jun 17
Originally Published by Illumination Curated on Medium
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Self, beyond words, is the absolute existence of a person, their awareness of themselves, and their inherent qualities. It is a subjective phenomenon, yet if taken out of context, it can have a detrimental effect on objective perception in the social realm. The variance lies within the theme of dissociating “Self-awareness” from defiance of “Egocentricity.”
Self-awareness, or the ability to attune to our feelings, thoughts, and actions, carries special meaning.
Being self-aware provides us the strength to recognize how other people perceive us. Thus, self-awareness is the instrument of intelligence to identify our challenges and how strong we can become to undertake those hurdles.
Self-awareness covers diverse facets of “us,” including personalities, manners, and emotional state. It is the state of mind in which we become the focus of attention.
We are not innately born one hundred percent self-aware, even though initially, as infants, we do have a rudimentary sense of self-awareness. For instance, as newborns, we can differentiate between self-and non-self-touch. The way we are aware of ourselves varies whether we are in the privacy of our own (Private Self-awareness) or when we are aware of how we appear to others. (Public Self Awareness)
Egocentrism is the morbid variant of being Self
Discerning self from others is a phenomenon that every human must possess if they intend to thrive in social harmony. Nevertheless, the Egocentric utterly lack that ability. Egocentrism defines one’s failure to indeed adopt or understand any perspective bar one’s own.
Egocentric behaviors are prominently a childhood phenomenon yet still can, indeed, extend into adulthood. In fact, egocentric can be an enduring development in one’s life. And when it does, that is mere because those individuals have perpetually failed to learn and correct themselves; the kind of process that donates to the human cognitive advance by ration children develop the theory of mind and self-identity formation.
One to mention, Egocentrism may resemble narcissism yet hardly the same. Although both egotists’ and narcissists’ egos are momentously inclined by others. Latter may or may not be valid for egocentrics. On the other hand, Self-awareness is one of the central elements of our individuality, being fundamental to who we are instead of focusing on everyday activity.
Self-awareness is rooted within who we are and tends to occur on various occasions and places depending on the situation and our particular personalities.
Upholding the Golden Rule is about self-Awareness, not necessarily being a self-Centered Shudder
Some believe living life by the “Golden Rule” makes us narrow-minded jerks! — That is where the semantic shift of what truly is self-centrism comes into top play.
Indeed, The Golden Rule is about treating others as we expect to be treated.
Golden Rule has existed in people’s minds in one form or another, still does, and will always exist. The only problem is that not everyone puts it into practice. That; people have to turn out to be lazy, pure and simple.
To be the upholder of the Golden Rule, we must first be honest with ourselves. Scrupulousness to self will only endure upon reflecting on our self-awareness. In other words, it is exceptionally critical for us to uncover the gashes between where we are, who we are at the moment, and where we are headed. Only then will we bear the ability to treat others as we expect to be treated. That approach to that process is absolutely critical.
“When Egocentrism is confused for self-awareness out, there goes the notion of the Golden Rule.”
Some believe the most hostile phrase around the golden rule is the ethics of reciprocity. That is why an alternative theory was introduced by those people under the “Silver Rule” theory. That tends to uphold the notion of “reciprocal Balance.” It builds on thinking that our behavior depends on the other person’s behavior; their good deeds should be rewarded, not their hurtful turns.
The hypocrisy of the silver Rule is that it sidelines the difference between Egocentrism and Self-awareness. Furthermore, it mistakenly assumes that the Golden Rule stresses rewarding bad conduct; its central message is behaving nicely towards those who misbehave.
The Public Self-awareness of our individual qualities, proactiveness, and honesty will, indeed, direct us along the Golden Rule footpath. But then again, the day that we cannot find the meaning of our part in maintaining uprightness to ourselves and others, we will be off the righteous path and headed to letdown towards the deception of Egocentrism.